Suffering, pain, humiliation, sickness and failure, is but a kiss of Jesus.
Once I met a lady who had a terrible cancer. She was suffering so much. I told her, "Now you come so close to Jesus on the cross that he is kissing you." Then she joined hands and said, "Mother Teresa, please tell Jesus to stop kissing me." It was so beautiful. She understood.
Suffering is a gift of God, a gift that makes us most Christlike. People must not accept suffering as a punishment.