...are messengers. Listen to them. ~Rumi
This is the beginning. Here is the path toward understanding how and why that which wounds you, redeems you. It is spiritual "alchemy" of the highest order. More from Rumi; "You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens."
This prospect pleases no one. (How can anything hurt this much?--This blistering, burning vessel I've touched--Someone remove this cup from my lips--It's wrenching my soul to tattered strips) Still, the archetypal stories are consistent; we must go where we least wish to. We must embrace the pain that paralysis us.
Life is constantly holding an intervention. The day we come to see "rehab" as a gift, rather than a punishment, is the moment in time the tide turns.
"There is a tide in the affairs of men, which taken at the flood, leads on to fortune. Omitted, all the voyage of their life is bound in shallows and in miseries." ~Shakespeare